@ Ghiagirl - you have created your own life, a happy and sincere one, something which your J.W. relatives don't have. If you feel that they are mounting a campaign against you, (in any shape or form) you have an obligation to defend not only yourself but also those around you.
My suggestion would be that you study and then print out some of the numerous black & white teachings of the org which oppose what the Bible really teaches! For example:
1) The governing body claims that foreigners were not participants in the Mosaic covenant. Deuteronomy 29:10 -15 says the opposite. Who's lying?
2) The org claims that Christians must witness for Jehovah. There is not one scripture which says such a thing, but there are 29 Bible verses which command Christians to witness for Christ. Who's lying?
3) The org insists that a "governing body" resolved the 1st century circumcision dispute amongst Christians. According to Galatians 2:1-6, the apostle Paul was used to resolve the issue, and was directed by means of a vision to teach the older men in Jerusalem - not the other way round! (especially verses 2 & 6) Who's lying?
Prepare yourself and highlight such topics to your friends. Encourage them to question the "love-bombers." They will quickly discover that asking questions in "God's organization" is a huge no-no!